We go through life wondering if there is a plan. We know there are lessons to learn and chances to take, but we wonder what the outcome is to be.
There are those that feel we make a pact before we get here. Our spirit on the other side may be lacking in some form of energy. There is no opposition on the other side, so it is hard to strengthen anything. So we take form, body, mind and soul and go to ground. We get here with our plan intact, the goal so easy to see before has now, been lost in a distant memory.
But we don’t come here without our fail safes. Friends that also have lives to lead, and goals to reach agree to help keep us directed. We have those that have hurt us so we turn back and try something else; we have those that walk with us as long as it shares their intended experience. It is like they help us, like we are rats in a maze.
Think of it like our lives are like we live in a tornado. In the beginning we are the center of our universe. We come into this world helpless, in need of food, love and shelter from life’s storms. It is like being in the eye, the world is chaos all around us, but our every need is tended to, if we are lucky. As we learn and grow, given tools by our parents, teachers and friends, we step out of that calm eye and into the intense winds of the storm. We are ducking cows, cars and buildings and at times we run back to the calm center before we jump out again. Life isn’t easy, and it is not for the faint of heart. But we learn to duck and jive, learning how to survive, learning what we need to know to go it on our own. Some people never leave the center, feeling they are the universe and expecting someone to tend to them. Some people jump out to the harsh winds daring a house to even try to fall on them. All people are different, and there is no right or wrong, we just have to remember we have a goal, and so do those that are here with us.
As we get used to the harshness of hurt feelings and growing pains, we keep going till the winds aren’t as strong. They still blow but you have time to think and plan your life. What job to have, who to spend your life with, should you have kids, all questions that are answered when the wind settles a bit and you can start to see your way. You try things and sometimes they work, and sometimes they don’t. When things don’t work, over and over, it is time to realize you are off your projected goal. As soon as you start thinking “why me”, that is the time to re-evaluate your actions. There is a saying “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” If you find that happening to you, seek knowledge, there is something you are missing. We all know people that take the wrong jobs, seek the wrong partner, trust the wrong people, and they do it over and over. Watch and learn from that. There is no problem with making mistakes as long as you learn from them. Every time you miss a lesson the next one gets tougher, and then next one even more so. Try to figure out what is going on as soon as you can, it will be much easier on you. It is all about paying attention and being present in your own life.
As you settle into your life and the winds die down more you start to see out in front of you that as you keep going the winds die down more and more. Life isn’t exactly easy, but it is easier. You are who you are to be, and on your way. It is during this time you really start paying attention to your spirituality. We are coming full circle and we have learned many lessons, maybe not all the ones you were supposed to, and maybe some you hadn’t planned on. As you look back you can see who came in and out of your life and what they did or didn’t do for you.
The biggest lesson to me is to “learn to only take what is freely offered and to only give what you freely can.” This is huge. I know people that give till they are depleted and find that often time the offering isn’t appreciated, but it is accepted anyway. These people often times are so hurt because they gave more than they really had to give. And there are people that take, and then want more, the manipulate and such to get you to give more than your all. This causes many things to happen and none of them good. When you do give, and you do it solely because you want to, how it is received doesn’t matter. You did it because it was the right thing to do.
There are those that always want to “help” the underdog, an honorable thing to do, but again, don’t give more than you can freely. We are here to live our experience. Yes sounds terribly selfish, but it is still true. I know a man that gives to a few people, only what is comfortable, and most of them hardly acknowledge his kindness. There are no phone calls of “how are you?” or even thank yous. He does it because he can. It harms him not, and he expects nothing. But in their world where most people are unkind to them, life has been hard, times are tough, he is the shining light in their lives, the one person that gives freely, and asks for nothing. I wonder if they realize it.
So with that thought in mind I want to thank all who have crossed my path, wandered it with me, and helped me change direction when I was a bit lost. I am so glad that in this big world with all the trials, joys and tribulations, “I found you.”
